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Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Even though I’m a therapist, I’m certainly not a miracle worker. I (mostly) can’t read your mind. And, I won’t change your life. I will guide, assist, empathize, and support you unconditionally.  I will sit with you while you explore your inner demons and love […]

The S.T.U.C.K Series: Part 2

I know what I need to do, but I just can’t do it.  In the first part of this series, I described the foundation for my S.T.U.C.K theory, outlining the acronym “scared to undergo change and/or knowledge.” Feeling stuck is one of the most prevalent problems […]

Happiness & Brushing Your Teeth

What are your goals for therapy? Client shrugs. Looks down at the ground, uncertain with herself, uncertain with everything around her, nervous and clearly uncomfortable in her own skin. I don’t know. I just want to be happy.  Every therapist in every office has heard this […]

You Better be Praising Your Clients!

This post will be short, concise, and straightforward. It’s been a very busy week with a lot of awesome sessions, and a common theme has stood out to me: We don’t give people nearly enough validation. I believe in the power of genuine compliments. I […]

The Normie Therapist & The Addict Client

I’m not an addict. I’ve never intravenously administered anything in my veins or chased any proverbial dragon or pawned something of value for desperate pocket change. I’ve never made up stories for pain medication prescriptions or dreaded a urine test for work. I don’t know what […]

When is Therapy Over?

As clients pursue the complex formula that is therapy, many will ask, How do I know when I’m done? During intake, the common question is, How long is this going to take? Unlike most (if any) relationships, therapy is a dynamic both client and therapist enter […]

Stop Waiting for Rock Bottom.

If you are suffering, in any capacity, you have permission to ask for help. You don’t need to hit any significant milestone. You don’t need a reason or justification. You don’t even need a tangible problem. If you are suffering, you deserve to heal. It’s […]

Are We Ever Ready to Say Goodbye to Our Clients?

The therapeutic relationship is unique in the sense that it may very well be the only relationship we enter with the intention of leaving. Our clients come to us with a concern of some sort, a malady that has impeded their quality of life, and […]

The Message of Depression

One of my favorite supervisors hypothesized, depression happens when expectations supersede reality. I have to agree. I also have to note that it appears we live in a society designed for this kind of lopsided cycle to thrive. When we are constantly bombarded with messages […]