capturing the beautiful calamity of healing in therapy

Tag: mental illness

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Trauma is complicated. However, understanding the differences between victim, survivor, thriver can offer a gratifying perspective shift to measure individual progress. After all, in terms of mental well-being, sometimes all we have is our perspectives. Fortunately, our perspectives provide tremendous insight on how we see […]

The Three Questions of Therapy

The Three Questions of Therapy

Why go to therapy?  One of my first clients taught me that therapy- and the greater meaning of existence- eventually came down to exploring (and possibly answering) three fundamental, chronological questions: Why should I live? How should I live? What can I do to make my […]

Is everyone adulting but me?

I recently read a statistic claiming that Millenials report higher levels of anxiety and  depression than any other generation at the same age reported. I am not interested in the actual research behind this statistic. Perhaps it’s true, or perhaps our generation is just more […]

The S.T.U.C.K Series: Part 2

I know what I need to do, but I just can’t do it.  In the first part of this series, I described the foundation for my S.T.U.C.K theory, outlining the acronym “scared to undergo change and/or knowledge.” Feeling stuck is one of the most prevalent problems […]

The Client with “The Terrible Condition”

Alice sobbed the entire first session. They were guttural and visceral sobs, the kind where nobody speaks, because nobody knows how, and the language exchanged is colored with misery and utter hopelessness. Fifty minutes passed with hardly a word, but she stated she would see […]

When is Therapy Over?

As clients pursue the complex formula that is therapy, many will ask, How do I know when I’m done? During intake, the common question is, How long is this going to take? Unlike most (if any) relationships, therapy is a dynamic both client and therapist enter […]

A Connection Cannot be Random

There is the infamous saying we accept the love we think we deserve. And with this exists the natural dialectic that we also unknowingly accept the pain, misery, and suffering we think we deserve.  Interpersonal relationships, as short-lived, stressful, or intimate as they may be, are complex and unique, but […]

I Love You is Not Enough

In all my work with youth, the most consistent issue I hear among all ages and demographics remains, I wish my parents paid more attention to me. With all the research and information about the topic, we could fill libraries with books about parenting and how to raise a […]