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Tag: marriage and family therapy

You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You wanted to know how to love yourself because you knew loving yourself was important.  You also wanted to know why you hurt so much inside, and why, no matter what you did, you felt inferior, incompetent, and ashamed. Unfortunately, you were also in love […]

Does My Therapist Think About Me? Everything Between the Sessions

Does My Therapist Think About Me? Everything Between the Sessions

You always wondered, does my therapist think about me? One of our first sessions. You told me you went to therapy years ago and that question constantly nagged at you. What did that therapist think of you? Did she judge your stories? Did your secrets […]

How To Find The Right Therapist: The Art & The Science

How To Find The Right Therapist: The Art & The Science

Yeah, so, I’ve never really liked therapy. All my therapists sucked. If I knew how to find the right therapist, maybe I’d get something out of this?  How many times have I heard this? How many times have clients sat across from me, eyes glazed […]

Therapy Beyond the Problem

Therapy Beyond the Problem

Enter our therapy session. She was cordial but reserved. Friendly, but still distant. Showed up to therapy every week, but seemed dubious and calculating. When we first started working together, she admitted she didn’t really believe in therapy or counseling, and that was okay, because, […]

Why Everyone Can Benefit from DBT

Why Everyone Can Benefit from DBT

When Marsha Linehan developed Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), it became widely used among practitioners in the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, substance use disorders, eating disorders, and mood disorders. And, yet, DBT skills have universal importance- for just about anyone. While they are effective in treating mental […]

Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Even though I’m a therapist, I’m certainly not a miracle worker. I (mostly) can’t read your mind. And, I won’t change your life. I will guide, assist, empathize, and support you unconditionally.  I will sit with you while you explore your inner demons and love […]

Licensed in the State of California

Licensed in the State of California

I have been officially licensed for one month! In a nutshell, this means I completed graduate school, attained 3000 clinical hours in a variety of categories, and passed two licensing exams. The Board of Behavioral Sciences gathered all this information and deemed me competent to reach […]

The exposed hour: taking off the makeup in therapy

The exposed hour: taking off the makeup in therapy

Three years ago, when I was working for an inpatient treatment center, I facilitated a self-esteem and body image group for women. We were a cluster of complex and rich personalities- women of all different sizes and complexions and war stories, each carrying backpacks of […]

Is everyone adulting but me?

I recently read a statistic claiming that Millenials report higher levels of anxiety and  depression than any other generation at the same age reported. I am not interested in the actual research behind this statistic. Perhaps it’s true, or perhaps our generation is just more […]

Your Partner Deserves Your Best Self

“..But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” We have all heard this trite cliche. It’s plastered everywhere on social media, taunted as a cutesy threat towards potential suitors who may be showing interest. […]