capturing the beautiful calamity of healing in therapy

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You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You wanted to know how to love yourself because you knew loving yourself was important.  You also wanted to know why you hurt so much inside, and why, no matter what you did, you felt inferior, incompetent, and ashamed. Unfortunately, you were also in love […]

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Trauma is complicated. However, understanding the differences between victim, survivor, thriver can offer a gratifying perspective shift to measure individual progress. After all, in terms of mental well-being, sometimes all we have is our perspectives. Fortunately, our perspectives provide tremendous insight on how we see […]

“I Relapsed When I Got Fat.”

I relapsed when I got fat. She said this with a matter-of-fact shrug and then gave me a smirk. She was six days sober and and teetering between the underweight and normal weight charts.  It was our first therapy session, and we were talking about […]

The S.T.U.C.K Series: Part One

I know what I need to do, but I just can’t do it. Taylor entered therapy knowing exactly what was wrong with him and exactly how to cope with it. He could outline his defense mechanisms, as if he had recited a psychology textbook, and explain his […]

The Chaotic Fallacy We Call Control

The Chaotic Fallacy We Call Control

Control is a word we throw around loosely, though the complexity of its meaning remains largely misunderstood. The serenity prayer, a beautiful mantra frequently used in Twelve Steps philosophy, God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the […]