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Tag: codependence

The S.T.U.C.K Series: Part 2

I know what I need to do, but I just can’t do it.  In the first part of this series, I described the foundation for my S.T.U.C.K theory, outlining the acronym “scared to undergo change and/or knowledge.” Feeling stuck is one of the most prevalent problems […]

A Connection Cannot be Random

There is the infamous saying we accept the love we think we deserve. And with this exists the natural dialectic that we also unknowingly accept the pain, misery, and suffering we think we deserve.  Interpersonal relationships, as short-lived, stressful, or intimate as they may be, are complex and unique, but […]

You aren’t sabotaging yourself

I hear about self-sabotage syndrome all the time. The addict uses just before leaving rehab. The dieter binges just before her weigh-in. The student parties the night just before a huge exam. The woman cheats just before her marriage. Clients use it, therapists use it, […]