capturing the beautiful calamity of healing in therapy


#ThisPsychMajor is only the tip of the iceberg.

“Universities ought to have skin in the game. When a student shows up, they ought to say ‘Hey, that psych major deal, that philosophy major thing, that’s great, it’s important to have liberal arts … but realize, you’re going to be working [at] a Chick-fil-A” […]

In Defense of the Adolescent

Adolescence is the paradoxical transition from dependent, playful, and spontaneous childhood into independent, structured, and responsible adulthood. In society it has been coined as a torturous, rebellious “phase,” a time-sucking capsule where “sweet kids” turn into demonic nightmares for several years. It is the conflict of […]

I Love You is Not Enough

In all my work with youth, the most consistent issue I hear among all ages and demographics remains, I wish my parents paid more attention to me. With all the research and information about the topic, we could fill libraries with books about parenting and how to raise a […]

You aren’t sabotaging yourself

I hear about self-sabotage syndrome all the time. The addict uses just before leaving rehab. The dieter binges just before her weigh-in. The student parties the night just before a huge exam. The woman cheats just before her marriage. Clients use it, therapists use it, […]

The Willigness to Forgive Yourself

The majority of people I work with hate themselves. Rumination over the past, continuous regrets over what should have, could have, would have been different, and the merciless resentments they hold inwards have created a permanent narrative of failure and incompetence. All the accolades and […]

The Necessity  of Feeling the Feelings

The Necessity of Feeling the Feelings

The other day, while running one of my substance abuse groups, we began talking about accepting emotions and the difficulty of “experiencing a feeling for exactly what it is.”  Inevitably, any time we broach this kind of subject, the overwhelming response is something along the lines of, I do X, […]

The Message of Depression

One of my favorite supervisors hypothesized, depression happens when expectations supersede reality. I have to agree. I also have to note that it appears we live in a society designed for this kind of lopsided cycle to thrive. When we are constantly bombarded with messages […]

The Terrible Reality of Medication Stigma

The Terrible Reality of Medication Stigma

“I’m not going on meds. I’m not going to take the easy way out. I’m not THAT bad” (client in mid-sixties suffering severe depression, suicidal ideation, and self-harm behavior. Psychotropic medication, despite its profound role in medicine and psychology, is the ugly stepsister of treatment. […]

The Chaotic Fallacy We Call Control

The Chaotic Fallacy We Call Control

The humanistic desire for control embodies the wonderful illusion that we carry responsibility and say in the structure and methods of our universe. The serenity prayer, a beautiful mantra frequently used in Twelve Steps philosophy, God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I […]

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Soul of Therapy is about the unique and organic process of healing that occurs in the course of psychotherapy. It is about the destigmatization of mental illness and the promotion of acceptance and self-exploration. It is about an emerging therapist and her vision to bridge […]