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The S.T.U.C.K Series: Part 2

I know what I need to do, but I just can’t do it.  In the first part of this series, I described the foundation for my S.T.U.C.K theory, outlining the acronym “scared to undergo change and/or knowledge.” Feeling stuck is one of the most prevalent problems […]

Happiness & Brushing Your Teeth

What are your goals for therapy? Client shrugs. Looks down at the ground, uncertain with herself, uncertain with everything around her, nervous and clearly uncomfortable in her own skin. I don’t know. I just want to be happy.  Every therapist in every office has heard this […]

How To Charge Your Emotional Batteries

Nothing runs forever without maintenance, and we are no different. Just like the cell phones so many of us are hooked to, we frequently run ourselves to “low battery,” and this existence can drain our happiness, affect our physical functioning, and harm our relationships. Just […]

What if you don’t want to climb the ladder?

It is five in the afternoon, and I am sweating under a blistering California sun watching college graduates happily receive their diplomas. My brother is among the sea of pointy, tasseled hats, and I’m beaming with pride. He’s done good work- flipping through pages of textbooks, […]

Go make LIFE happen!

Although it’s definitely not exclusive to psychotherapy, I am a huge fan of the ever-popular bucket lists. In fact, I love these lists so much that I regularly update my own and incorporate the technique into my therapy groups and individual sessions. I value having […]

There is no magic in therapy

There is no magic in therapy

As a therapist, I love what I do, and look forward to work everyday. I have incredible interactions  with clients from all walks of life, and I love helping these blessed souls unravel the layers of shame, fear, and traumas often  blanketing them when they […]

Don’t be a passenger in your own car!

The point of this blog post is to share why getting in the driver’s seat is an essential part of mental health healing. Before I delve into my rationale, I want to emphasize that when you are a passenger in your own car, you are letting […]

You Need to Like Your Therapist

A few months ago, I was talking to a professional colleague about a former client and mentioned that I really liked him/her and that I felt he/she really liked me. This wasn’t a romantic or even friendship “like”; this was simply a matter of enjoying mutual company […]

It’s Okay to Break Up with A Friend

When I reflect on all the breakups I’ve endured, the most challenging ones were not the stereotypical intimate relationships. Far from it. The hardest were the ones with friends- especially those long-lasting ones from childhood- where closeness was fostered over slumber parties and sharing notes, where girlhood bonding […]

When is Therapy Over?

As clients pursue the complex formula that is therapy, many will ask, How do I know when I’m done? During intake, the common question is, How long is this going to take? Unlike most (if any) relationships, therapy is a dynamic both client and therapist enter […]