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Therapy Beyond the Problem

Therapy Beyond the Problem

Enter our therapy session. She was cordial but reserved. Friendly, but still distant. Showed up to therapy every week, but seemed dubious and calculating. When we first started working together, she admitted she didn’t really believe in therapy or counseling, and that was okay, because, […]

No, really. It’s okay to change your mind.

No, really. It’s okay to change your mind.

Sometimes, in a world that adores bucket lists, commitments, and tried-and-true honors, in a world that covets moral conviction and loyalty, it’s okay to change your mind. That’s right. If something is no longer working, if you have outgrown something and the voice in the […]

You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You Wanted To Know How To Love Yourself

You wanted to know how to love yourself because you knew loving yourself was important.  You also wanted to know why you hurt so much inside, and why, no matter what you did, you felt inferior, incompetent, and ashamed. Unfortunately, you were also in love […]

Does My Therapist Think About Me? Everything Between the Sessions

Does My Therapist Think About Me? Everything Between the Sessions

You always wondered, does my therapist think about me? One of our first sessions. You told me you went to therapy years ago and that question constantly nagged at you. What did that therapist think of you? Did she judge your stories? Did your secrets […]

How To Find The Right Therapist: The Art & The Science

How To Find The Right Therapist: The Art & The Science

Yeah, so, I’ve never really liked therapy. All my therapists sucked. If I knew how to find the right therapist, maybe I’d get something out of this?  How many times have I heard this? How many times have clients sat across from me, eyes glazed […]

Love When Your Partner Was Sexually Abused: The Healing Pieces & The Journey For Connection

Love When Your Partner Was Sexually Abused: The Healing Pieces & The Journey For Connection

How do you have a healthy relationship if your partner was sexually abused? This article discusses a topic society rarely addresses. The devastating sexual abuse epidemic stands in the societal limelight more than ever. Today, we provide more advocacy, research, and resources to survivors more […]

The Best Ways to Find Your Happy

The Best Ways to Find Your Happy

How to Be Happy? A simple Google search for how to be happy yields me 175,000,000 results in a mere 0.53 seconds. I’m convinced this is searched online every moment of every day. We are obsessed with being happy, finding inner peace, maximizing the day, embracing YOLO. We want […]

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Victim Vs. Survivor Vs. Thriver

Trauma is complicated. However, understanding the differences between victim, survivor, thriver can offer a gratifying perspective shift to measure individual progress. After all, in terms of mental well-being, sometimes all we have is our perspectives. Fortunately, our perspectives provide tremendous insight on how we see […]

Why Everyone Can Benefit from DBT

Why Everyone Can Benefit from DBT

When Marsha Linehan developed Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), it became widely used among practitioners in the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, substance use disorders, eating disorders, and mood disorders. And, yet, DBT skills have universal importance- for just about anyone. While they are effective in treating mental […]

Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Your Therapist Will Not Change Your Life

Even though I’m a therapist, I’m certainly not a miracle worker. I (mostly) can’t read your mind. And, I won’t change your life. I will guide, assist, empathize, and support you unconditionally.  I will sit with you while you explore your inner demons and love […]